I am an introvert.

Whew! Glad I got that off my chest.

I recently read a post on the myths about introverts. If you are predominantly an extrovert, this is definitely worth reading.

I am an introvert

Source: Lifehack

 

Definition of an Introvert

I googled the definition of an introvert. Because, you know, google knows everything. It defined an introvert (psychological definition) as a person predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things (source). I disagree with this definition.

I would not say that I pay special attention to the things going on inside my mind more than the things going on around me. I try to live as much in the moment as the next person.

I simply prefer to be alone. I prefer to have my nose in a book or to binge watch Netflix alone (not listening to my husband ask me questions about the same thing we are both watching at the same time).

As most of you Mamas know, being alone is a rare commodity when you have kids. I say kids, because Chris is just as needy sometimes. He knows it, too! I’m also just preparing myself for what is to come this year.

Moments alone are great, but they are few and far between. That doesn’t make me less of an introvert than I was before I had a child or moved in with my husband. I have simply learned to deal with my introvert tendencies better. It definitely isn’t easy, but it comes with time.

Have you ever felt like your mind works slower than others? Maybe it takes a little longer to have something make sense in your brain? Maybe that’s just me.

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introvert may be slow, but not stupid

Source: Introvert Spring

Here is a great post about how an introvert’s mind works different than an extrovert’s mind.

 

 

Emotional Aspect of an Introvert

I’m going to be open about myself for a moment.

I was on vacation all last week, but I stayed home with my son. I had one plan for each day. Every plan included alone time with Jude. From a 5 mile walk with the stroller to a trip to the zoo, I had it all figured out. Or so I thought.

I received a text from my Mother-in-law on Wednesday morning asking if I wanted to go to a fish hatchery and park a few towns over with her, her boyfriend, and Jude’s cousin.

I’m going to be honest. I immediately dreaded it. My plan had also included a park, but much closer. And more quiet. And way more alone.

introvert excuses

Source: Introvert Spring

 

My anxiety began to rise. I wanted to cry. This is what happens to introverts. Some might say I was just overreacting, but that was the way my mind handled that situation.
These were the thoughts going through my head:

  • Am I a bad mom because I don’t want to go?
  • Sure, you are!
  • Would my son miss out on a great day?
  • He probably would, but he also might miss his nap time and that will ruin everything.
  • Will the fish hatchery and park be crowded?
  • No, school is back in session. There shouldn’t be a lot of people there.

I ended up going and had a nice time. Would I have preferred to be home the entire day? Hell yeah! But sometimes as an introvert, you have to do things you’d prefer not to do.

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Final Thoughts + Motivation for Introverts

Being an introvert is so much more than a perceived definition. You are so much more than an introvert.

Extroverts don’t always get it.They may never get it.

In the same thought, neither do we. Sometimes we don’t understand the need to go out all the time. Or the desire to be at the center of the party.

 

extrovert vs introvert

Source: Thought Catalog

If we all tried to better understand each other, it might not be so bad.
You are brave. You got out of bed this morning. And even if you didn’t, there is always tomorrow.

You are strong.

You did something outside of your comfort zone.

You are awesome, because you are you.

Don’t let someone tell you that you need to be different in order to be accepted or “cool”.

 

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Are you an introvert? Or maybe you are a secret introvert?

If this post helped you in anyway, I’m beyond ecstatic! Feel free to drop me a line in the comments below.

Moments alone are great, but they are few and far between. That doesn't make me less of an introvert than I was before I had a child or moved in with my husband. I have simply learned to deal with my introvert tendencies better. It definitely isn't easy, but it comes with time.

 

Author: Alesia

Alesia is a working mom who fights her way through life, depression, and just plain stupidity. She strives to show others that it is possible to be a bad-ass while you feel like you’re losing your mind. A Bottle of Sanity is a space in which working moms may find easy recipes, parenting tips, and sanity.


Alesia

Alesia is a working mom who fights her way through life, depression, and just plain stupidity. She strives to show others that it is possible to be a bad-ass while you feel like you're losing your mind. A Bottle of Sanity is a space in which working moms may find easy recipes, parenting tips, and sanity.

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