Wellness can be seen as such a “woo” term. People have never spent so much time focusing on health and wellness as they spend now. There are tons of life coaches out there that help with a variety of life issues. But what about a life coach that helps those who struggle with mental wellness?
A quick google search will show that there really aren’t many people that claim the title “mental wellness coach”.
Are coaches afraid to speak out about mental health? I don’t think this is the case. Many coaches simply take on the generic title of life coach.
In America, depression is on the rise in women. Mental Health America states a few very sad statistics.
- Fewer than half of the women who experience clinical depression will ever seek care.
- More than one-half of women cited denial as a barrier to treatment while 41% of women surveyed cited embarrassment or shame as barriers to treatment.
- Approximately 10%-15% of all new mothers get postpartum depression, which most frequently occurs within the first year after the birth of a child.
- Women experience depression at roughly twice the rate of men.
- Approximately 12 million women in the United States experience clinical depression each year
These numbers prove one thing that I am very passionate about—you are not alone!
I’m very open about my depression and anxiety. When I had my first son, I struggled with postpartum depression for eight months.
And I never sought help.
I felt so alone in my thoughts and sadness. I didn’t realize that there were tons of other moms who struggled with the very same thoughts I was having.
What is holding moms back from getting the help they need? There are plenty of reasons why someone might not want to invest in their mental wellness, but I’m going to look into six of them.
There is a fear of being judged by the group or therapist
There is always this constant fear that when we open up, someone will judge us in our most vulnerable place. This fear is the main reason why moms are hesitant to open up.
Sometimes, I find it difficult to talk to my husband about my depression. He doesn’t struggle with it so he doesn’t always know what it’s like. It’s my duty if I want to be better understood, to explain it to the best of my ability. It’s not always easy, but sometimes he surprises me with his insight.
Don’t let fear hold you back from getting the help you need.
Be brave! Take chances!
You have the desire to “fix it yourself”
When it comes to your mental health, DO NOT TRY TO FIX YOURSELF!
There are tons of coaches and information out there. I’ve even compiled a list of free workbooks and help with a variety of wellness topics.
All it takes is a phone call, email, or Facebook message to speak with someone about what is bothering you. Don’t give in to trying to fix yourself. You need the accountability and help.
If you are looking for community of moms who work to encourage each other through their mental wellness, take a minute to sign up for the FREE Facebook Group, Moms Thriving Through Depression and Anxiety. I started it with my good friend, Lori Evans over at Spirit of Strength Coaching.
With weekly prompts, we will help walk you through this journey so that you can thrive.
Finances hold you back
There are tons of free help out there. You just have to know where to look.
Sometimes all you need to do is make a phone call to someone you trust. A lot of coaches offer complimentary strategy calls. These calls aren’t very long, typically ranging from 15-30 minutes, but it might be what you need in that moment.
Don’t forget, your mental and emotional wellness is just as important as getting new bath towels or going out to eat. This is something you have to be willing to make a priority.
I understand that it’s difficult, especially when you struggle with self love. You are worthy of doing good things for yourself.
No one is talking about mental health and wellness
There is always a negative stigma given to mental or emotional wellness. Times are changing though. People are becoming more aware of self-love and self-care. There are yoga classes to relieve stress and essential oils to boost your mood.
All around, people need to start talking about this more! We, as moms, need to speak up about our postpartum depression and anxiety. We need to be vulnerable and open about the way we truly feel and think.
I’ll start… My name is Alesia. I’m a working mom and loving wife. I struggle with anxiety and depression. I dealt with 8 very long months of postpartum depression after I had my first child. I was sad all the time. I didn’t want to hurt him or anyone else; but between the hormonal imbalance and history of depression, I was not OK.
And guess what? It’s OK to not be OK.
Let’s talk about it and help each other out!
It takes time and effort
Mindset change, like training for a marathon, is something that must be worked on. You have to change the way you naturally think of yourself.
Would you sign up for a 5K marathon and expect to finish it without having some training? Not unless you are some kind of crazy! Typically, you try to condition your body to run and accomplish that which you’ve set your mind to.
The same applies to your mental and emotional wellness. You have to work toward your goals.
If your goal is to be less anxious, that isn’t going to happen overnight. It sounds wonderful, but anyone who tells you that they can “fix” your mental wellness problems immediately is just trying to take your money. It takes time and effort.
Like a beautiful flower, your wellness needs to be nurtured and trimmed.
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Someone told you that you will “be fine”
Everyone has that well-meaning aunt who gives unwelcome life advice. Maybe you’ve heard someone say the following:
“It’s just a phase you are going through.”
“Everyone struggles with this at times.”
“This happens to plenty of moms.”
Every experience is different. The things that make me depressed or anxious might not be the same things that make you depressed or anxious. I never want to “normalize” my mental wellness problems.
Instead, I want to face them head-on and live a thriving and wonderful life despite my struggles.
Never be afraid to get help. It doesn’t matter if the help is mental or physical. You matter so much more than the reasons above.
So tell me, have you ever NOT invested in your wellness because of the reasons listed? Or was there another reason?
Alesia is a working mom who fights her way through life, depression, and just plain stupidity. She strives to show others that it is possible to be a bad-ass while you feel like you’re losing your mind. A Bottle of Sanity is a space in which working moms may find easy recipes, parenting tips, and sanity.