I came to the realization that I am very unhappy.
Not with my life in general.
Not with my husband or son.
I am unhappy with my place of employment.
As someone who has dealt with depression throughout my life, it’s so easy to get into a rut. To get into a point in my life where I go through the motions and I absolutely hate what I do.
Being a mom and wife has only made this worse in a way. I have to be strong for my son. I have to be strong for my husband. Giving up isn’t exactly an option for me. I have a little person looking up to me. I have to give each day my very best.
Being happy is hard. I’m not going to sit here and lie to you. Especially when you are working in an environment that feels toxic.
We live in an era of quickness where people don’t want to work hard for what they want.
Get rick quick schemes.
Lose 10 pounds in one week.
The list could go on for miles.
I became frustrated with my job because it is not what I want to do with my life. Let’s go through just a few pros and cons.
- Great Benefits
- Tuition Reimbursement
- Corporate Bureaucracy
- Lack of Ambition
- Low Moral
The pros outweigh the cons in these instances. These things help my family and myself. We all have health insurance, dental and vision. And I am able to get my dual B.A. major in Business Management and Marketing without getting into debt.
The cons are what make me so frustrated. I’d much rather work for a small family run business than an international corporation. I like the sense of family that comes with the small business.
My dream job is to own a marketing consulting company. I want to work for myself. I want to chose my clients and decide my hours and pay.
Yet, I must take care of my family and get this degree.
I must also meek in mind that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
Listening to the podcast, I’ve learned a lot. But there is one thing that has really stuck with me.
You have to work hard to be successful (whatever that looks like to you). It’s not something that happens overnight. It takes hard work, dedication, and a mindset to not give up.
This success is what keeps us going.
I realize that my job is a means to an end. The crazy things that go on are still going to happen whether I am happy or not.
And this brings me to my main point.
What is the secret to unlocking daily happiness?
It really is that simple. Every day, you have to make a choice to be happy no matter what the day is going to hold.
It’s not that easy though. You have to keep choosing. It’s not a one and done kind of thing.
Happiness is a daily choice that we each have to make.
And I promise you, it will make a HUGE difference in your life.
I can honestly say that I am the happiest I’ve ever been at my job.
You may be wondering, “Alesia, If I do this, will my situation change?” No, definitely not at first. My situation hasn’t changed. Things have actually gotten worse.
By choosing to be happy everyday, I’m finding that I’m being nicer to people. What? Seriously!
I have more patience for people. Anyone who knows me, knows I have a really hard time being patient.
I’m much happier and people are noticing a difference. Making this change in my life is making me into a better person.
I’m not naive in thinking that these things will make my situation better. I just don’t feel so downtrodden by what goes on. It’s all about the mindset you choose to have.
I want to leave you with my two favorite quotes on happiness:
For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Folds are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.
Your daily happiness is worth taking time throughout the day to choose to be happy.
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What do you do that helps you achieve daily happiness?
Alesia is a working mom who fights her way through life, depression, and just plain stupidity. She strives to show others that it is possible to be a bad-ass while you feel like you’re losing your mind. A Bottle of Sanity is a space in which working moms may find easy recipes, parenting tips, and sanity.