Will I ever be free of my anxiety?
This is a question I ask myself on a regular basis. So what is my answer?
I honestly do not believe that I will ever be “free” of my anxiety. I do; however, believe that I can live intentionally. I believe that I can control my anxiety.
What does that mean?
Well, I have come to understand that my anxiety is a part of the person I am. It is my reaction to situations around me. I have found ways to effectively deal with my anxiety.
I will tell you this—Don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself some room to breathe. Your anxiety is not an end all. You can still live victoriously through it.
Anxiety is an Emotion
We often forget that anxiety is an emotion. Like anger. Does anyone ever truly control their anger?
No, they find ways to deal with it and control it. You should never shame someone because they have emotions. That would just be insane. Instead, it depends how they deal with the emotions. Having emotions is a natural part of life.Having emotions is a natural part of life. It's all about how you deal with those emotions though. Click To Tweet
That’s what I teach my toddler when he gets frustrated or angry. I would never dream of telling him to stop feeling that way. Instead, I teach him that it’s OK to feel “frush-frated” but he should not act out in his frustration.
Here’s a little mantra that I’ve started saying to him:
A little bit of patience and a deep breath go a long way.
He even visibly takes a deep breath when I get to that part. We can all certainly learn a thing or two from what we teach our kids.
Easy Ways to Control Your Anxiety
There are a few things I’ve learned to do to control my anxiety. I’d love to share them with you in hopes that they can help you too.
Give yourself room to breathe. Remember to take a breath when you feel like an anxiety attack is coming on.
I find that a shower is the best spot for me to clear my thoughts. I’m not sure if it is the warm water or the natural eucalyptus soap I use. Either way, I always have my best ideas in the shower because my mind is clear of all the other things that usually bog me down.
Find time to be alone. Since I am not a morning person, I find that night time is the best time of day to find “me” time. My kid and husband are usually asleep by 10p.m. so that gives me an hour or two by myself.
Yoga / Exercise
A beginner yoga class might just be the thing you need. Most yoga studios have great prices for new students. Between that and a decent exercise routine, you can feel the anxiety melt away.
I love essential oils! I mix them with coconut oil and rub them on the back of my neck. They are great for relieving stress and helping to improve your mood.
Related: Essential Oils to Boost Your Mood
Even thought I am a night owl, I still enjoy my naps and sleep. If your kids are napping, try to nap with them. Snuggling with your little one can certainly help. I also like to have a cup of tea (or Ramen noodles because this pregnant woman does what she wants haha) before bed and that helps me relax.
Another tip is to relax every part of your body. You start at your toes and end with the top of your head.
Is Control of Your Anxiety the End?
If you deal with anger or any other emotion, do you ever “get over” it? Not really. Those emotions (which are totally normal) will always be there.
Control of your anxiety is not a destination. It is more of a journey. It is a journey of mountains and valleys.
There will be days when you feel like you haven’t accomplished anything in your journey. Then you will have other days when you are on top of the world.
You can chose every day to look your anxiety in the face and tell it that today is your day!
Do you find it difficult to control your anxiety? What helps you? Feel free to comment below.
Alesia is a working mom who fights her way through life, depression, and just plain stupidity. She strives to show others that it is possible to be a bad-ass while you feel like you’re losing your mind. A Bottle of Sanity is a space in which working moms may find easy recipes, parenting tips, and sanity.